Tuesday, December 18, 2012
Thursday, October 11, 2012
Time Flies
It's not often that I take the time to reflect on the past, as the present, is what I like to focus on. The here and now, not the been there done that.
Occasionally I will sit back and take a look at my life, to get things in perspective. The past is the past and that is where is should stay no doubt, but don't forget that the past is also where our memories are. I like to think back to the good times; reminisce over some of the greatest times in life, I never look back to bad times unless it is to see if I have grown from that experience. Never hold on to the negatives, they won't get you far.
Remember that time does fly and take the time to enjoy each and every moment of the present because tomorrow they will be the past.
Living For Today,
Kathleen Marie
Wednesday, July 18, 2012
Life Gets Busy
As the days go by, I realize more and more that things get missed because you get so busy focusing on something else. Not that what your focusing on is less important than the things that are getting missed.
I know that because of work and everyday life in general, I over look things all the time.
My friends for instance. I don't always make time to hang out with them. After a long week at work I just want to relax and spend some time with my love. So I miss the time I could be spending with friends because I get so busy focusing on the relaxing part or getting my time with my future husband. Right now we are taking time away from all the other obligations we have on weekends, for him his rides with the club every Saturday, for me, nothing really big, just everyday things, laundry, house work. family time, So we can finish our wedding plans. So time to get away to spend with friends is a little difficult.
But I see where I over look my time with my friends. Not that I have a lot that I really enjoy hanging out with, but I do have a few that I really enjoy being around.
Always,
Kathleen Marie
Monday, April 2, 2012
Healthy Friends means Healthier Lifestyle
Are you someone who has a million friends? Do you pride yourself for having hundreds of friends on Facebook? Do you actually know all those people? Like Really know them, taken time to spend time with them? Didn't just meet once and now you're "best Friends"? Now you share every little detail with them and can't figure out why certain things keep happening to you?
Been there done that. I got so hurt from it. Now I don't have many friends, I have more of "friends" than close friends. I have a few that I would consider very close friends. I have let my guard down one to many times and have been hurt time and time again. I have realized that there are certain people you can share your life with and they will stab you in the back and in the heart with no second thought. So I have learned to keep people at a distance until they show me, they are trust worthy and deserve to Know all of me.
So my advice: is keep your circle of friends very small. The More friends you have the harder it is to see the true ones. I have a very select few of friends I share everything with. All my other friends, only know what I want them to know. You will never keep track of the ones who turn around and talk smack; if you have too many people you open up to. So Pick the right people to Open up to and let in. You will know the minute you do, whether it is the right person or not.
We may be blessed with having people who care about us, that is such an awesome feeling. But I know what it is like to have someone care for you and then turn around and break your heart because they honestly didn't care as mush as you thought they did. There is a place in your heart for Friends and then there are places for Acquaintances. Differentiating between may be a hard and hurtful process but in the end it will be for the best. You will know who will truly be there for you when things get rough and those who say they will be really aren't. I have a few
So take a look at your friends and find the best Friends you will let in. Then look at the rest and reclassify them, because I am sure you will realize you rather have no friends then be "Friends" with the ones that continually hurt you.
By hurting I don't always mean, physically hurt you, or they just talk trash behind your back. I also mean the ones they say little digs to hurt you. Or build you up just to tear you down, because they don't want you to be better than them in any way. We all deserve the best, in life, in love, and in friends.
Never let anyone make you feel less than what you are truly worth. God made you Perfectly. You may make mistakes, but get up and learn from them. It will make you better in the long run. Just know you are Perfect in God's Eyes. And that's all that truly matters. Even if someone tries to tear you down just know that God loves you more than you know. And your friends will be the true tail to that. They will lift you up when times are rough and keep building you up and be there right there when you need them.
You'll see the result when you have only positivity around you. You need to be will people who bless you and lift you up so you can lift others up when they are down.
Kathleen Marie
Friday, March 30, 2012
We All Have Those Days
Ever Feel like you just don't want to do anything? OR have those days where you are pumped for the day and excited to get things done and then half way through your excitement and motivation, you Crash?
Don't Lie, you know you do! Everyone has them, some people hide it better than others and some people work right through it and get that excitement and motivation back. And then there are the ones that let it over take them and they just can't find the will to fight back. Well I am gonna tell you a few of my tricks on how to change that. I know that everyone is different. I know that one thing may work for me and not you. But what if I told you that we can find something and get you pumped for life as well.
Here is how we are gonna change that!
Think about what makes you Happy?
For me this is my Fiance! Now if what makes you happy isn't a person that is okay, it can be anything, but it needs to be something that makes you happy everyday. Whether it be your kids, your parents, your friends, even your dog. Whatever it is, focus on what it is about them that makes you happy. Thinking of that one thing should have a smile on your face already as you sit and ponder these words. I know I'm smiling at the mere mention of my Fiance.
What is your favorite song?
What song makes you wanna get up and Go? Makes you wanna dance and Jam?! Play it! On your Ipod, Mp3 player, the stereo, on Youtube! Put it on repeat! Until you are pumped and ready! Same for if you have a lull in your day that you can't quite push yourself through, this will help break that point and get you going again.
Talk to someone!
Still aren't feeling up to par? Not ready to get a move on. Talk to someone who always puts things in perspective for you. OR Someone who is willing to help you. Tell them what is putting you in the funk, if you can't figure it out on your own, maybe this person will ask the right questions to get you to see where the problem lies. Always go to someone that will lift you up and Keep you there. Watch out for the ones you lift you up and then tear you down. Nobody likes a Debbie Downer, We want someone who will give you the lift you need!
Take a reflective look in the mirror.
Tell yourself you are excited about the day! You are the only Person who can keep yourself Positive at all times! If someone brings you down you need to be able to pick yourself up. If you can't do that, then look in the mirror and tell yourself all the Positive things that you need to hear from someone else; because 10 times out of 10 you really need to hear them from yourself. Be accountable for your thinking. (I have written in eyeliner on my Mirror "I am Beautiful" Because there are days when I don't feel that way. I need to be held accountable for my thinking. Seeing it puts me on the right track to believing I am Beautiful) If you are thinking positively then you will be able to pick yourself up, and you will be proud knowing you did it all by yourself. Seek self happiness rather than seeking to make other people happy. Life will be more enjoyable that way.
Go For a Walk
When I am in a funk, I have found that putting in the head phones and blasting my music and taking a walk really helps clear my head of all the things that could possibly blocking me. Not only are you outside enjoying the fresh air and scenery but it is something you can control. You can go as far as you want. Take that time to see the beauty in life. I guarantee you, that by the time you get home you will be ready to conquer the day.
As I said before these are things that work for some. Take one and see if it works, if doesn't move on to the next on and so on. Modify it until you have found the thing that will take you out of the funk that you are in.
Katie
Don't Lie, you know you do! Everyone has them, some people hide it better than others and some people work right through it and get that excitement and motivation back. And then there are the ones that let it over take them and they just can't find the will to fight back. Well I am gonna tell you a few of my tricks on how to change that. I know that everyone is different. I know that one thing may work for me and not you. But what if I told you that we can find something and get you pumped for life as well.
Here is how we are gonna change that!
Think about what makes you Happy?
For me this is my Fiance! Now if what makes you happy isn't a person that is okay, it can be anything, but it needs to be something that makes you happy everyday. Whether it be your kids, your parents, your friends, even your dog. Whatever it is, focus on what it is about them that makes you happy. Thinking of that one thing should have a smile on your face already as you sit and ponder these words. I know I'm smiling at the mere mention of my Fiance.
What is your favorite song?
What song makes you wanna get up and Go? Makes you wanna dance and Jam?! Play it! On your Ipod, Mp3 player, the stereo, on Youtube! Put it on repeat! Until you are pumped and ready! Same for if you have a lull in your day that you can't quite push yourself through, this will help break that point and get you going again.
Talk to someone!
Still aren't feeling up to par? Not ready to get a move on. Talk to someone who always puts things in perspective for you. OR Someone who is willing to help you. Tell them what is putting you in the funk, if you can't figure it out on your own, maybe this person will ask the right questions to get you to see where the problem lies. Always go to someone that will lift you up and Keep you there. Watch out for the ones you lift you up and then tear you down. Nobody likes a Debbie Downer, We want someone who will give you the lift you need!
Take a reflective look in the mirror.
Tell yourself you are excited about the day! You are the only Person who can keep yourself Positive at all times! If someone brings you down you need to be able to pick yourself up. If you can't do that, then look in the mirror and tell yourself all the Positive things that you need to hear from someone else; because 10 times out of 10 you really need to hear them from yourself. Be accountable for your thinking. (I have written in eyeliner on my Mirror "I am Beautiful" Because there are days when I don't feel that way. I need to be held accountable for my thinking. Seeing it puts me on the right track to believing I am Beautiful) If you are thinking positively then you will be able to pick yourself up, and you will be proud knowing you did it all by yourself. Seek self happiness rather than seeking to make other people happy. Life will be more enjoyable that way.
Go For a Walk
When I am in a funk, I have found that putting in the head phones and blasting my music and taking a walk really helps clear my head of all the things that could possibly blocking me. Not only are you outside enjoying the fresh air and scenery but it is something you can control. You can go as far as you want. Take that time to see the beauty in life. I guarantee you, that by the time you get home you will be ready to conquer the day.
As I said before these are things that work for some. Take one and see if it works, if doesn't move on to the next on and so on. Modify it until you have found the thing that will take you out of the funk that you are in.
Katie
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