Are you someone who has a million friends? Do you pride yourself for having hundreds of friends on Facebook? Do you actually know all those people? Like Really know them, taken time to spend time with them? Didn't just meet once and now you're "best Friends"? Now you share every little detail with them and can't figure out why certain things keep happening to you?
Been there done that. I got so hurt from it. Now I don't have many friends, I have more of "friends" than close friends. I have a few that I would consider very close friends. I have let my guard down one to many times and have been hurt time and time again. I have realized that there are certain people you can share your life with and they will stab you in the back and in the heart with no second thought. So I have learned to keep people at a distance until they show me, they are trust worthy and deserve to Know all of me.
So my advice: is keep your circle of friends very small. The More friends you have the harder it is to see the true ones. I have a very select few of friends I share everything with. All my other friends, only know what I want them to know. You will never keep track of the ones who turn around and talk smack; if you have too many people you open up to. So Pick the right people to Open up to and let in. You will know the minute you do, whether it is the right person or not.
We may be blessed with having people who care about us, that is such an awesome feeling. But I know what it is like to have someone care for you and then turn around and break your heart because they honestly didn't care as mush as you thought they did. There is a place in your heart for Friends and then there are places for Acquaintances. Differentiating between may be a hard and hurtful process but in the end it will be for the best. You will know who will truly be there for you when things get rough and those who say they will be really aren't. I have a few
So take a look at your friends and find the best Friends you will let in. Then look at the rest and reclassify them, because I am sure you will realize you rather have no friends then be "Friends" with the ones that continually hurt you.
By hurting I don't always mean, physically hurt you, or they just talk trash behind your back. I also mean the ones they say little digs to hurt you. Or build you up just to tear you down, because they don't want you to be better than them in any way. We all deserve the best, in life, in love, and in friends.
Never let anyone make you feel less than what you are truly worth. God made you Perfectly. You may make mistakes, but get up and learn from them. It will make you better in the long run. Just know you are Perfect in God's Eyes. And that's all that truly matters. Even if someone tries to tear you down just know that God loves you more than you know. And your friends will be the true tail to that. They will lift you up when times are rough and keep building you up and be there right there when you need them.
You'll see the result when you have only positivity around you. You need to be will people who bless you and lift you up so you can lift others up when they are down.
Kathleen Marie
